This may be a difficult subject to address for some as it forces you to honest with yourself which is not always an easy thing to do. Feeling stuck in life can cause you to feel overwhelmed, stressed, and have no clue what you need to do to move forward. You only know that you have to.
Most of us are focused on the future. Our retirement funds are looking bleak, not to mention our starving savings accounts that just will not move in a positive direction no matter how hard we try. We’re not happy in our careers/relationships etc, and the list goes on.
“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as being stuck where you don’t belong in life”
Refusing to address these issues can cause major anxiety, depression and insomnia among other unpleasant things, especially in the long run.
Instead of looking to the future, why not stay in the ‘now’, to determine what’s causing you to feel stuck in life, and how to address this stifling issue.
What’s causing you to feel stuck in life?
The fear of starting over, being alone, failure, and the unknown may just be the most prolific obstacle to many people making the changes they need to become unstuck.
These feelings inevitably lead to demotivation and the impression that there are no options or no way out. Feeling stuck may be emotionally paralyzing, however, it is mostly an illusion conjured up by our own minds.
Even so, it might be comforting to know that several people are in the same position as you. A UK study showed that 40% of people were unhappy with life in general and a whopping 69% of people felt trapped by routine. The study also showed that the reason they were not making any changes is that they are clueless as to where to start.
So it seems the biggest problems are…….
- Lack of freedom
- Boring, repetitive routines designed by someone else and expected to be followed by you like a hamster on a wheel.
- Not knowing where to get the information on how to create long term financial success and freedom. Because let’s face it, no matter how free we are, we still have to pay the bills.
- Fear of starting something new
- Fear of the unknown
If you’re experiencing some or all of these feelings, it’s a major sign that a change is essential. Making any type of change means that we are forced to step out of our comfort zones. But once you take that crucial first step, the rest automatically follows.
But don’t take it from me alone. Take it from someone who has been in the same stuck position as you, who was determined to get unstuck. Watch Dan Holloway, a fellow member of a community of entrepreneurs who decided to go their own way, using the training below.
5 Tips on how to become unstuck
1. Take a step back from the drama
First things first. You’ll need to distance yourself from those who are prone to negative talk, or who will not believe in you when you’re starting to make a change.
The last thing you need is someone barking at you that you should continue your 9 to 5 that makes you so miserable it makes you slightly sick.
Take a step back from other people’s drama and negativity and start to perceive your problem with a new, clear mindset.
Be honest with yourself. Pinpoint the problem and write it down. Once it’s written down, it becomes real, and that means that a solution/plan is needed.
Keep this information to yourself. People will always try to kick a lying dog. It’s an attempt to make themselves feel better about their own problems and the fact that they are doing nothing about it, but YOU ARE!
2. Take the smallest first step
It’s common for people to want to jump in full steam ahead. What they don’t know is that they are causing their own reasons to become overwhelmed all over again.
When you’re starting to make a change there is no need to do anything substantial immediately. Even the smallest step takes you closer to your goals. Do not run before you can walk.
I find that mental work is the most important first step. Making changes means that challenges are ahead. If you’re feeling stuck you might be feeling mentally and emotionally drained already. So any challenges may break you before you even began.
A change in mindset from…………
- Lack to abundance
- Can’t’ to ‘absolutely can’
- Maybe to definitely
- Failure to ‘failure is a vital stepping stone that leads me to greater success’
You may notice a trend. Above is the foundational mindset of entrepreneurs. People who believe so strongly in themselves, with so much determination that they step outside the norm. No matter what people say, no matter what they face, they have the strong mentality to overcome.
This step should be your priority. Practice it in your daily life. You’ll be surprised how things slowly and automatically start falling into place for you. In that state of ‘peace of mind,’ the answers tend to come to you more succinctly.
Don’t miss this step. It may change every aspect of your life.
3. Face your fear of failure and the unknown
This may come as a surprise to you, but the some of the world’s most successful people had no idea what they were doing or where they were going when they first started.
The truth is that NO ONE knows. No one has the answers. None of us have it figured out and we do not have a crystal ball. Now here comes that mindset again. You may feel like you’re walking blindfolded and feeling your way to ‘Who knows where’, But when you join a community of likeminded people, who will never walk alone.
Instead of fearing what seems like a massive deep black hole of uncertainty, view the unknown as the adventure you’ve been seeking for a long time. The excitement of starting something new that may break the chains that bind. The vigor that gives you the strength to start now, achieve now, and not worry about where it will take you. It literally is ‘The Power of Now”! Something Eckhart Tolle knows a little something about (wink wink).
4. Set time-bounded realistic goals
I used to hate when people told me to set goals because it held me accountable. Accountability is not something I enjoyed or took to very easily, until I achieved my first goal. The feeling of success is addictive!
Now goals don’t have to be “make my first six-figure income within a year”. That’s way too broad and long term for now. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t have a long term goal that’s large and in charge. You sure can, but that shouldn’t be your primary focus when you’re starting to make a change. It places too much pressure on you, and at some point in time, you will become demotivated, as it just seems so far away.
Start with something small, like losing a pound in a certain amount of time. Whatever period of time seems realistic to you. Whatever goal you set has to be something that will take you in a positive, more empowering direction.
Try to slowly introduce something new into your life, to get yourself used to stepping out of your comfort zone. For example, join a group on Facebook of people who have the same interests as you and start communicating. You may even find the answers to which direction you’ll want to go in to.
I personally found the vehicle that took my business to another level through a group member on Facebook who introduced me to someone who helped me get there.
Step out of your comfort zone with time-bounded goals. You’ll be surprised how empowering it is.
5. Don’t ever compare yourself to others
When I first embarked on my own journey of change, I looked to others to see what they were doing and how far they came. When I saw how far they came and haven’t even been at this as long as I have, I immediately felt downhearted and incredibly demotivated.
All that mental work I did to keep in the ‘glass half full’ position went out the window and I went straight back into negative talk and beliefs. It completely threw me off balance, blocked my creativity and leeched every ounce of strength I had left.
I literally had to put everything aside and start that mental work all over again.
During my reattempt to get myself in the right mindset, I started talking to these people who were progressing so fast. It turns out that they had come from a background of exactly what we all were doing, except they’re doing it for themselves now, no more irrational bosses and colleagues!
So I realized that we are all at different stages in our lives, with different sets of skills and backgrounds. Needless to say that some of us are at an advantage, but does that mean that those who do not possess those skills cannot do the same thing? Absolutely not! Those people had to learn those skills somehow, they put in the work already, now it’s my turn!
This is YOUR journey. You get to do it at YOUR pace, in YOUR style with YOUR own ideas. You are no longer that hamster on a wheel. You are free to make your own decisions, make your own mistakes, and go in the direction YOU want.
Comparing yourself to others puts you right back on that hamster wheel. Do not put yourself in that position.
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